I just feel the need to say this for many women out there. The ones who laughed in awkwardness. The ones who hid their pain. The ones that gave you a fake answer. The ones that changed the subject. The ones that went home and cried. The ones that cringe at every baby shower invite or pregnant belly post. Because there is no perfect response.  So, before you joke “you’re next” or ask “when are you having kids?” or say “time for more” when referring to pregnancy/children, be aware that you could be saying something heartbreaking to a woman. Your joke or poke is so much more than just that. Whether it is a choice to not have children, or a struggle to conceive, a physical condition, or someone who has suffered miscarriages or infant loss….these are all hurtful statements/questions. We need to be mindful of that. What may have come easy for you could be a many year struggle or tough decision for someone else. No woman ever needs her friends/family to remind her that she’s expected to have kids….the whole world does that for her already. Every Damn Day. Let’s just mind our own wombs, mmmkay?